항상 불행한 사람들의 특징 8 Negative Thoughts Your Employees Probably Have about Wellness

8 Negative Thoughts Your Employees Probably Have about Wellness

Positivity can make all the difference in an employee’s journey towards better health. A positive mindset has some obvious mental health benefits including decreased stress, improved relationships and a lower risk for depression and anxiety.

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항상 불행한 사람들의 특징 부정적 생각 하면 스스로 수렁으로 빠져   감정 조절을 못하거나 반복적으로 부정적인 생각을 하면 자신 스스로를 수렁으로 빠트리게 된다. 보다 행복하고 원만한 삶을 위해 삼가야 하는 나쁜 생각으로는 무엇이 있을까. ‘허프포스트’에 따르면, 다음과 같은 4가지 사고방식을 줄여야 보다 윤택한 삶을 누릴 수 있다. 1. 끊임없이 본인을 입증하려 든다 표면상 보기 좋은 결과에 집착하는 사람들이 있다. 다른 사람이 자신을 어떻게 평가하는지를 가장 중시하기 때문이다. 이런 사람들은 외관상 그럴듯해 보이는 결과물을 내려고 한다. 하지만 그러다보면 삶을 보는 시각이 좁아질 수 있다. 당장 남들보다 좋은 차를 타야 한다는 생각처럼 ‘지금 당장’의 문제만 중요해지기 때문이다. 이처럼 사소한 일에 집착하다보면 정작 중요하고 가치 있는 것은 잃어버리는 상황이 벌어질 수도 있다. 삶은 점진적으로 성장해 나가는 여정이라는 사실을 잊지 말아야 한다. 2. 모든 일을 감정적으로 받아들인다 상대방이 가볍게 던진 말을 지나치게 심각하게 받아들이는 사람들이 있다. 조언이나 권유의 수준에서 말을 했는데 모욕으로 받아들이는 것이다. 항상 자신이 옳다고 자기도취에 빠지거나 남의 피드백을 무시하라는 의미는 아니다. 상대의 말을 지나치게 의식해 상처를 받거나 실망할 필요는 없다는 뜻이다. 다른 사람의 평가와 반응에 휘둘리게 되면 건전한 정신을 유지하기 어렵기 때문이다. 3. 부정적인 생각에 사로잡혀 있다 항상 비관적이고 부정적인 말만 하는 사람들이 있다. 물론 자신이 겪고 있는 힘든 일을 다른 사람에게 털어놓으면 기분이 나아질 수 있다. 또 직접적으로 말할 수 없는 부분은 SNS를 통해 글로 풀어낼 수도 있다. 하지만 삶의 긍정적인 부분을 아예 무시하고, 끊임없이 부정적인 생각만 한다면 결국 왜곡된 시선을 갖게 된다. Replacing Negative Thoughts/ResearchGate edited by kcontents 4. 본인을 항상 피해자의 입장에 둔다 항상 자신을 희생자라고 생각하는 것도 본인에게 독이 된다. 잘못은 다른 사람이 저지르고 나는 피해만 본다는 생각이다. 이는 능동적으로 문제를 해결할 수 있는 힘을 내지 못하게 한다. 현실에 안주하게 된다는 것이다. 과거의 경험을 통해 트라우마가 생긴 사람일수록 자신의 삶을 스스로 통제하고 지휘하지 못한다. 스스로를 불운하고 불행한 사람이라고 생각하지 말자. 그러면 삶을 스스로 조율할 수 있는 힘이 있다는 사실을 깨닫게 될 것이다. 권순일 기자 kstt77@kormedi.com 코메디닷컴

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What you might not have known, however, is that optimism has also been associated with some awesome physical health benefits. Many optimistic people are more resilient—meaning they can bounce back more quickly and easily. Their resilience helps them to overcome and avoid illness much more efficiently than their pessimistic counterparts.

While it’s clear that positivity is a personality trait that’s good to adopt, it’s not always easy. When it comes to health and wellness, negative thoughts can creep into your employees’ minds as a reaction to what’s going on in their lives. They can’t necessarily stop those negative thoughts from popping up. 

They can, however, spin those negative thoughts into something much more positive. The best way to do that is to be prepared! You and your employees need to recognize your negative thoughts for what they are so you can tackle them before they tackle you.

Check out these common types of negative thoughts and share them with your workforce so you can be prepared to take a step towards the positive.

Thinking in Extremes

Extreme thoughts usually fall into an “always/never” or “all or nothing” category. You might be guilty of this if you think your job is always stressful or if you think you shouldn’t work out because it won’t be worth it if you don’t have an hour to devote to your local boot camp class. You might also be guilty of this type of negative thinking if you turn every negative situation into a catastrophe! Let’s remember to see those mole hills for what they are...

Filtering Out the Positives

Even on your worst day, there are probably some positive things present. This negative thought process filters out those positives and focuses on or magnifies the negatives. Without letting the light of positive circumstances shine through, life can get pretty dark.

Fortune Telling

Let’s face it—you don’t know what’s going to happen in the future. So convincing yourself that the worst possible scenario is the one that will occur just doesn’t make sense. Live in the present and focus on what’s happening now.

Unless you can read other people’s minds (which you can’t), there really is no reason to jump to conclusions. Odds are the conclusions you’re jumping to are completely unfounded. Convincing yourself you know exactly what others are thinking can lead to comparison and a negative perception of yourself.

Thinking with Your Feelings

One huge mistake you and your employees might be making is to take your emotions as fact. This type of emotional reasoning gives you a completely skewed lens of what’s actually happening. Learn to weed through your emotions to get to the truth.

Feeling the Guilt

If you find yourself using words like “should,” “must,” and “have to,” you’re probably trapped in some guilty thoughts. Viewing your health journey as a punishment or mandate is one way to make it much more difficult than it needs to be. Focus on the great things a healthy lifestyle can offer so you’ll truly want to build healthy habits.

Personalizing Situations

I’m not going to beat around the bush with this one—the world does not revolve around you! When it comes to negative situations, far too many people think it does. If you find yourself constantly worrying that bad things happen because of something you did or didn’t do, you might need to work on this negative thought pattern.

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Making Excuses

Some things you simply need to hold yourself accountable for. It might be difficult at first, but in the long run consistently coming up with excuses can be a very negative thought process.

Negative thoughts happen, and that’s okay. The best way to push past them is to prepare yourself for when they arise. If you notice one of these eight negative thoughts becoming a regular occurrence in your mind, it might be time to look into specific strategies to overcome that particular thought pattern.

As a rule of thumb, though, you can take on these negative thoughts with one simple question... “Is it true?” In most cases, the automatic negative thoughts that creep into your brain aren’t grounded in reality or supported by any sort of evidence. Take a minute to see a negative thought for what it is.

If it is true, what can you do to change it? If it’s not true, what is positive about the situation?

Positivity is an asset for you and your employees’ health. Be intentional about the thoughts you let fill your mind. Try to address these common types of negative thoughts and seek to see the positive things that are always present.

Which negative thoughts patterns have you struggled with? Let me (and other readers) know how you’ve overcome them in the comments below!

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